Sunday, September 6, 2015

Authenticity, Gender and Socialization

Newsweek (still extant online) carries an article by Nina Burleigh concerning Hillary's problems with inauthenticity. Burleigh attributes this issue to difficulties women, in general, have with being perceived as authentic. Hat tip to RealClearPolitics for the link.

She never mentions that people (especially other women) are skeptical of women's authenticity. The skepticism happens because our society carefully trains women to be inauthentic in a social milieu.

What husband hasn't left a social function with his wife only to have her tell him, once in the car, what a total pill she thought X was at the function, how angry X made her? This after his wife was outwardly pleasant to X. In other words, her actions did not reflect her feelings. Another name for this behavior is "inauthenticity."

Fellows don't often do this. A man faced with someone unpleasant will be unpleasant back, or hit him, or walk away (unless X is his boss). All of these are "authentic" behaviors, accurately reflecting the actor's feelings.

Men tell far fewer of the "white lies" that allow social interactions to flow smoothly, which can make men socially awkward. People are, however, less often suspicious of what a man says for this reason.