Unmarried women want to date men with greater (or at least equal) education and/or income. More women than men are attending and graduating from college.
When men outnumber women, men tend to conform to women’s wishes which focus on commitment and long-term relationships. When women outnumber men, women tend to conform to men’s wishes which focus on casual sex and lack of commitment.
Where women outnumber men, women tend to be less happy and are more likely to engage in feminist activities. Why are fewer men than women becoming educated?
In their book, The Demise of Guys, psychologists Philip Zimbardo and Nikita Duncan suggest that the answer is twofold: fake war and fake sex. They argue that many young men have a natural desire for conflict, struggle, and accomplishment. Video games satiate this desire. They are designed to induce a sense of gradual achievement in the face of obstacles adapted to be just above the player’s ability. Alongside this, young men also have a natural desire to seek sexual partnerships. Digital porn satiates this desire. Porn provides a virtual experience of sexual fulfillment with multiple different partners. Many young men may have simply decided to derive a sense of accomplishment from gaming, and a sense of sexual satisfaction from porn.It’s an argument for a new Puritanism banning ”fake war and fake sex.” Of course many prefer “war” to be “fake” and “fake sex” is more varied and less risk and hassle. I’ve just hit some high points, the whole article is worth your time.
